Sometimes bila kita dengar ceramah about Nabi dan sunnah sunnah Nabi dalam hidup berumah tangga, some men will go " ah tengok tu isteri nabi, how dia melayan nabi." we are deemed to ikut cara wife nabi melayan Rasul Allah yang Maksum itu. Isteri mana yang tak nak and try her hardest to follow. Understand that dalam dunia kini women also faces alot of challenges that sometimes pull her attention away from her duties.Working Wifes for example.
MasyaALLAH if get a husband closes like sifat sifat nabi syukur alhamdulillah. But men today often terlepas pandang yang mereka itu,(bukan semua la sesetengah) hampir kepada keperibadian nabi tu tak ada. Nabi Maksum, yakni terperlihara dari melakukan dosa dosa kecil. So if a wife who gets husband macam ni and tidak melayan sebaik mungkin, mesti she will feel so small and belittle and also bersalah. Remember isteri isteri nabi are normal as any women today, tidak lepas dari lakukan kesilapan, tidak lepas dari sifat sifat marah, penat and also needs attention.Our beloved Prophet had many wifes and all of them loved him cause he was fair.
How does Nabi Muhammad attends to this? He face it patiently and slowly not by screaming and yelling to his wifes and calling names.Not by ignoring his wifes needs and kekurang wife dia. If you do so and you expect your wife to be quiet and listen and not even cry,means you are looking for a wife who is not human. Cause ALLAH made woman with the most feeling, tears and also fear, for men to protect.
How does one man justify yang diri dia should get a wife like yang closest to isteri isteri Nabi if he himself doesnt follow the teaching. Thats why husband and wife both need to work hand in hand and seek knowledge together. If the husband is good of course automatically the wife follows. It is in our nature when we find the other half, we follow. Sedangkan Menteri Wanita apa pun she looks back for her husband. Cause to her, he is her leader. Apala senang macam ni pun x nampak.dari Abu Hurairah r.a ia berkata: Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: “pergaulilah kaum wanita itudengan pergaulan yang lemah lembut, kerana sesungguhnya kaum wanita itu dijadikan dari tulang rusuk dan sesungguhnya tulang rusuk itulah yang sebengkok-benkoknya ialah yangpaling atas. Maka apabila engkau hendak meluruskannya, luruskannlah dengan perlahan dan apabila tidak diluruskan, ia sentiasa bengkok selama-lamanya. Oleh sebab itupergaulilah wanita dengan pergaulan yang lemah lembut”. (H.R Bukhari dan Muslim)
Ni tidak, when the wife does the slightest mistake or maybe merajuk because of something he has done, he uses it as a reason to marry another and claims that it is in his right. How can that be what you have not fufil to 1 wife needs.
Firman Allah:
Ertinya: ...”dan bergaullah dengan mereka secara patut (makruf), kemudian bila kamu tidak menyukai mereka (maka bersabarlah) kerana mungkin kamu tidak menyukai sesuatu padahal Allah menjadikan padanya kebaikan yang banyak”
Your wife needs your support even though she is not working, at home with the kids with no one to talk to and when you come back you expect her to serve u good food, dont talk to much, no complains and let you watch tv and sleep so that the next morning you can go to work.Orang gajikah? fair? Your wife needs your attention and sometimes clingy. You rasa rimas.Somehow after years of marriage,you thinks its not relevant to woo her or give her your attention but you can go out and give other women your attention and shoulder to cry.Fair? And when she gets hurt by something you said, or maybe she is anoyed by some misunderstanding you had, instead of clearing it out you walk away and when she sits quiet and have a silent treatment because you refuse to talk to her about the issue you claim that you should fine another wife? adil sangat kah?
Your wife is human, she is bond to make mistakes,tegurla baik baik. Sometimes she protest not because you tegur her but by the way you tegur her sometimes humiliate her and rough. No woman in their mind will give up everything for a man she doesnt love, she doesnt admire, she doesnt think worth of her. So please, in future when your wife does something wrong,instead of jatuh hukum dia" x bau syurga", reflect on what you have done to her for her to go to that extend, and if not in your fault, show her the way back. Maybe she just got lost in rage. You claim to have love this person to marry her, so xkan la you nak leave her behind when you walk into Jannah.She is made dari tulang rusuk kiri lelaki. Close to your heart far from any sepak terajang and yelling.
A lot of men Kejar bidadari syurga, but if you ask me or some woman around, they would rather have their husband than someone they have not met or know no matter how perfect that being can be cause i know i am not perfect and only my husband knows the imperfection and flaws that i have.Many families the men practise good islamic teaching in the family but always neglect the rights of his wife upon him.
Arcticle: For the Husbands,
I know you might think I am a feminist. But this is what some women like me go trough.They feel its their fault to be treated this way, is the right way for husbands to treat them like that and is always them to be blame. They take the blame without knowing, what is their right.
love your article!
ReplyDeleteOuh thank you very much for your support!
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