He was always the one left out. I use to call him Worm cause of his nerdy,skinny personality plus his sister once told me that he had a lot of ' cacing cacing' behind his back. Knowing now, it was actually Jerawat la...Yes..i use to call him Sang Jerawat too cause of his pimple face. Sweet and very earthly. I remember him with his Bell bottom slack, jersey and TANCHO gel stick on his hair..Hahaha Mr. AI u think i dont remember you.
I knew his elder brother, was close with his elder brother before i knew him, i've never spoken or talk to him cause his elder brother would just shut the matter about his brothers if asked.I never knew his name... One day, i called his brother and he pick the phone, he lied saying his brother was not in and he would like to talk to me. So i laugh. He was much younger, i said okay, but you have to call me back and he did.
He was funny, a great listener and he was homely. And we click and he became like a brother to me. He would come and walk with me on my evening walks with my friends and share his thoughts. Sometimes we would go bowling with my friends. He was not the type that afraid to be stereotype.Sometimes we said he was more girly than boy. Instead of playing football with the rest. He said, his brothers and him had differents views so they always ended quarelling instead.
When i was having a bad day at school i would call him up to talk about silly things, and get confuse if it was him or his elder brother. His elder brother got lil bit weird when i stop talking to him and instead talking to AI. Of course AI was much humble, much loose and much funny. Not BF material type but more of a friend where else his brother was a bit on the ego control type.
Now, AI i see you are doing really well. Waa dah glamer kan....i read about u trough papers, articles and sometimes i see you on youtube. Ceh...mana mana ada kau kan. Yes you are a good listener and you are a good talker..this suits you real well...you might not remeber the young days you had when we were in school. Vividly i do...I thought u would change, but you were the still same cacing when i chatted with you the other day. AHahha..i was thinking to myself, " This boy i use to call him Cacing and look at him now he has grown into a butterfly"- a male one i hope..ehehhe. To you Mr AI..i'll be watching you...jangan lupa jemput aku nnti okay!!!..
Lilypie Maternity tickers
Friday, June 29, 2012
Monday, June 25, 2012
#MyWorld-Redang Lagoon.
Okay so went to Redang. There are lots of packages and chalets. But we choose the wooden one Redang Lagoon (only itu yang available sebenarnya) tapi suits la dengan Wood Anniversay.Not Laguna okay...Laguna mahal gilo..ni Lagoon. The package murah je so anyone nak pergi can choose this one:- Its cosy, homely, for those with kids ni dalam kawasan lagoon jadi selamat nak bagi anak berenang. Banyak visitors dari chalet lain datang to this area cause ombak x besar, banyak ikan nak snorkel, current not strong and x dalam. And this chalet we buat cam suka hati sendiri punya chalet ahahahah..holiday mode habis.
RM 290/person- Boat transfer 2 way, 8 meals (4 meals/day) makan mmg cukup x ingat banyak, Buffet style home food, 3 hari 2 malam twin sharing room (masa nak book if korang couple make sure korang state yang nak satu room for your own. kalau x dorg sumbat lagi satu stranger kat bilik korang. memang style semua chalet kat sini).3 times snorkelling ( 2 open deep sea 1 marine park), Free flow of cofee, tea and air suam ahahaha.
So we reach there @10am bilik belum siap. Checked in at 11am and lepak tunggu 12.30 for lunch.Hoo makan x ingat lapar gila. Food was kampung style cooking and xyah risau nak catu makan. Memang enough and lebih. Unfortunately dah le panas terik air sejuk tak ada sebab sebelum tu 3 hari pulau Blackout. Baru ada electric jadi Ice baru je buat. Ahahaha...so we beli air sejuk mineral kat kedai sebelah. Harga lebih kurang je ngan mainland..Not that expensive. Later 2.30pm we had 1 snorkelling session kat Deep sea tapi sbb over penat travel ,we slept sampai kul 2.30, missed the boat. But we went snorkelling kat beach. At first ingat xde ikan..skali bila sampai inside baru paras pinggang dah nampak Ikan bawal swim. Ui terus terasa nak makan Bawal masak Taucu..Me and sis beriya nak tangkap satu.Geram...Bawal okay...bukan ikan lain. And besar besar lak ikan kat sini..Ada tu once i tried to snap the fishes picture dia datang slap fins lak kat google. Kasi geram je..dah le xleh nak tangkap!..
Sarah & Sofea enjoyed. First Sofea x pakai pampers sbb asyik lari keluar masuk air...cuma morning dia yayak je then off dia ke laut..so macam happy je dia free..asyik jerit Pampers tade pampers xde..ahahah Sarah..played with sand, g swim (ada life jacket leh lah). Ouh ya..Rental equipment is RM 20 (snorkels + Life jacket) for the whole stay. Bukan kira hari. Lagi murah dari masa g Kapas.The only thing than Sofea did is dia terberak kat Coffee house masa tu x pakai pampers..huhohoho so terpaksala me and aunty shan scout mana dia berak and scope pakai tisu. Nasib seketul dia..patut la masa makan tu dia ada mintak pampers...pastu mamu nizam cakap x payah sbb nak swim..pastu dia happy semacam je...apa lagi lepas tu terus aku kaut dia g basuh!!!..
We swam till evening then had dinner. Malam je x tahu nak buat apa so we jalan jalan to other chalets. ada la orang main api atas beach, ada coffee house bertukar jadi cam pub la pulak..but we just lepak kat hammocks banyak2 yang chalet gantung. Awesome!..Next day we went to the Marine Park. The boat ride was okay tapi Sofea and Hubby was seasick. For the 1st time Sofea muntah and she look confused..last last terus tido. Hubby pulak so quiet. The boat ride was for 15 minutes gitu. The marine park was awesome..ada belut, ular laut and a 2 feet garupa..tapi itu yang berani go far out sikit nampak la..Banyak Gamat and lots of colourful fish. We fed the fishes there.
Later in the evening we went deep open sea snorkel at pulau Lima, Sofea slept on the bot. Nasib la dia x turun skali. Me, Idris and Sarah jumped in and got drifted so far. Arus punya kuat, berenang renang situ jugak. Makin jauh dari bot ke laut dalam. Last last terpaksala orang bot tu lepaskan tali selamatkan kitorg. We thought kita je jauh..rupanya satu bot tu semua terlajak jauh..ada tu sampai kat tengah laut..hui..dah le coral banyak...sampai tercalar kaki. WE are not suppose to pijak or petik or sentuh coral sebb even with one crack coral tu mati. Sian...now redang banyak dah coral mati nampak kat dasar laut.Sedey.
The rest of the trip was fun, we played, laugh and built sandcastles and made animals on the beach.Made new friends..was so sad to say Bye...but the trip ended in Redang and Starts again in Endau.
RM 290/person- Boat transfer 2 way, 8 meals (4 meals/day) makan mmg cukup x ingat banyak, Buffet style home food, 3 hari 2 malam twin sharing room (masa nak book if korang couple make sure korang state yang nak satu room for your own. kalau x dorg sumbat lagi satu stranger kat bilik korang. memang style semua chalet kat sini).3 times snorkelling ( 2 open deep sea 1 marine park), Free flow of cofee, tea and air suam ahahaha.
So we reach there @10am bilik belum siap. Checked in at 11am and lepak tunggu 12.30 for lunch.Hoo makan x ingat lapar gila. Food was kampung style cooking and xyah risau nak catu makan. Memang enough and lebih. Unfortunately dah le panas terik air sejuk tak ada sebab sebelum tu 3 hari pulau Blackout. Baru ada electric jadi Ice baru je buat. Ahahaha...so we beli air sejuk mineral kat kedai sebelah. Harga lebih kurang je ngan mainland..Not that expensive. Later 2.30pm we had 1 snorkelling session kat Deep sea tapi sbb over penat travel ,we slept sampai kul 2.30, missed the boat. But we went snorkelling kat beach. At first ingat xde ikan..skali bila sampai inside baru paras pinggang dah nampak Ikan bawal swim. Ui terus terasa nak makan Bawal masak Taucu..Me and sis beriya nak tangkap satu.Geram...Bawal okay...bukan ikan lain. And besar besar lak ikan kat sini..Ada tu once i tried to snap the fishes picture dia datang slap fins lak kat google. Kasi geram je..dah le xleh nak tangkap!..
Sarah & Sofea enjoyed. First Sofea x pakai pampers sbb asyik lari keluar masuk air...cuma morning dia yayak je then off dia ke laut..so macam happy je dia free..asyik jerit Pampers tade pampers xde..ahahah Sarah..played with sand, g swim (ada life jacket leh lah). Ouh ya..Rental equipment is RM 20 (snorkels + Life jacket) for the whole stay. Bukan kira hari. Lagi murah dari masa g Kapas.The only thing than Sofea did is dia terberak kat Coffee house masa tu x pakai pampers..huhohoho so terpaksala me and aunty shan scout mana dia berak and scope pakai tisu. Nasib seketul dia..patut la masa makan tu dia ada mintak pampers...pastu mamu nizam cakap x payah sbb nak swim..pastu dia happy semacam je...apa lagi lepas tu terus aku kaut dia g basuh!!!..
We swam till evening then had dinner. Malam je x tahu nak buat apa so we jalan jalan to other chalets. ada la orang main api atas beach, ada coffee house bertukar jadi cam pub la pulak..but we just lepak kat hammocks banyak2 yang chalet gantung. Awesome!..Next day we went to the Marine Park. The boat ride was okay tapi Sofea and Hubby was seasick. For the 1st time Sofea muntah and she look confused..last last terus tido. Hubby pulak so quiet. The boat ride was for 15 minutes gitu. The marine park was awesome..ada belut, ular laut and a 2 feet garupa..tapi itu yang berani go far out sikit nampak la..Banyak Gamat and lots of colourful fish. We fed the fishes there.
Later in the evening we went deep open sea snorkel at pulau Lima, Sofea slept on the bot. Nasib la dia x turun skali. Me, Idris and Sarah jumped in and got drifted so far. Arus punya kuat, berenang renang situ jugak. Makin jauh dari bot ke laut dalam. Last last terpaksala orang bot tu lepaskan tali selamatkan kitorg. We thought kita je jauh..rupanya satu bot tu semua terlajak jauh..ada tu sampai kat tengah laut..hui..dah le coral banyak...sampai tercalar kaki. WE are not suppose to pijak or petik or sentuh coral sebb even with one crack coral tu mati. Sian...now redang banyak dah coral mati nampak kat dasar laut.Sedey.
The rest of the trip was fun, we played, laugh and built sandcastles and made animals on the beach.Made new friends..was so sad to say Bye...but the trip ended in Redang and Starts again in Endau.
#MyFamily- Wooden Year
Yess...5 yers married. Its a long way..23 June 2012 marks 11 years i have been with hubby, 6 years of courtship and 5 years of marriage. yes exactly on the same date it all happen. This year since its 5..Wooden year so he said lets make this mark a bit special..So he ask me to plan a trip somewhere (ade ke aku yang kena plan)..but thinking back..he did actually cause he choosed everything.
The Redang Trip
I packed 2 days ahead...xke excited sangat ni. 1. cause its our Anniversary and HE plan it, 2 i have 2 kids now and 3rd coming up, 3 i have family as companions on the trip and 4.My sisters 1st time to east coast and 5. i need to get away from KL. I invited ZM to join but last minute she couldnt make it but that nite she took us out for Sate at Sate Station to bid farewell...ko tahu x ZM sampai ke pagi sendawa bau sate je..ceit!..Anyway My sister and her husband carpool in our Hilux making it cosier than ever. We laugh, chatted, sakat menyakat and had fun with the 2 kids from 11 pm right to 2am when we reach Cherating. Stop to have a drink and eat at one of the shops. Wondered what ikan Jebong is?...My sister's 1st trip to east coast and it was her birthday on the same day as my Anniversary. We waited for our chaperon-Mamu Nizam and Aunty Shan from Singapore to arrive. Yippe...
Mamu nizam was a bit lambat cause travel malam ngantuk, jadi we stop at slept kejap kat LEGEND...punya signboard...ahaha tepi jalan je and about half an hour they arrive so we headed to Kuala Terengganu. The hometown of Ana Banana...(seriusly Ana so loved Terengganu). We stop at Rantau Abang for a while and reach KT 7am. Carik breakfast la pulak. Yang funny, banyak kedai bukak but when we walk in, actually dorang baru nak tutup..cam tercengang kitorg..what? baru nak tutup? ni kedai ke disko?...but we found a cosy shop serving nasi lemak ikan tongkol..whatever la lapar..Join us for breakfast was Muse@ mustakim a close friend of ours...sebelum kitorg kawin lagi. Lucky we remembered him so we x payah nak park dekat jetty, we park at his house and he was kind enough to send and pick us up from the jetty. Thanks Muse...!!!
We check in at the counter. Our ride was 9am. so we had half an hour to rest at the jetty. Seeing the ferry "Sejahtera Ferry" reminded me so much of my college days when me and him will be coming back from our hometowns and meeting at the jetty for our ride back to college..Yes met on an island we love the island-we are islanders..Going to Redang most of us slept. I was tired i did not sleep for more than 15 hours and nausea. I rested and got up to get the glimpse of some of the islands. We are there...and Yes..the water was deep blue and as we neared in..the water turn to Buncho Water Colour Light Blue. Like someone put that colouring in the water. Super clear. it was Awesome!!
The Redang Trip
I packed 2 days ahead...xke excited sangat ni. 1. cause its our Anniversary and HE plan it, 2 i have 2 kids now and 3rd coming up, 3 i have family as companions on the trip and 4.My sisters 1st time to east coast and 5. i need to get away from KL. I invited ZM to join but last minute she couldnt make it but that nite she took us out for Sate at Sate Station to bid farewell...ko tahu x ZM sampai ke pagi sendawa bau sate je..ceit!..Anyway My sister and her husband carpool in our Hilux making it cosier than ever. We laugh, chatted, sakat menyakat and had fun with the 2 kids from 11 pm right to 2am when we reach Cherating. Stop to have a drink and eat at one of the shops. Wondered what ikan Jebong is?...My sister's 1st trip to east coast and it was her birthday on the same day as my Anniversary. We waited for our chaperon-Mamu Nizam and Aunty Shan from Singapore to arrive. Yippe...
Mamu nizam was a bit lambat cause travel malam ngantuk, jadi we stop at slept kejap kat LEGEND...punya signboard...ahaha tepi jalan je and about half an hour they arrive so we headed to Kuala Terengganu. The hometown of Ana Banana...(seriusly Ana so loved Terengganu). We stop at Rantau Abang for a while and reach KT 7am. Carik breakfast la pulak. Yang funny, banyak kedai bukak but when we walk in, actually dorang baru nak tutup..cam tercengang kitorg..what? baru nak tutup? ni kedai ke disko?...but we found a cosy shop serving nasi lemak ikan tongkol..whatever la lapar..Join us for breakfast was Muse@ mustakim a close friend of ours...sebelum kitorg kawin lagi. Lucky we remembered him so we x payah nak park dekat jetty, we park at his house and he was kind enough to send and pick us up from the jetty. Thanks Muse...!!!
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| #ZM ko ingat x...ko cakap dia pelakon Tibi dulu..ehehehhehe |
We check in at the counter. Our ride was 9am. so we had half an hour to rest at the jetty. Seeing the ferry "Sejahtera Ferry" reminded me so much of my college days when me and him will be coming back from our hometowns and meeting at the jetty for our ride back to college..Yes met on an island we love the island-we are islanders..Going to Redang most of us slept. I was tired i did not sleep for more than 15 hours and nausea. I rested and got up to get the glimpse of some of the islands. We are there...and Yes..the water was deep blue and as we neared in..the water turn to Buncho Water Colour Light Blue. Like someone put that colouring in the water. Super clear. it was Awesome!!
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| #Clear water at Redang |
Friday, June 15, 2012
#MyKids-Hijabi Daughters
My 2 Lovely Daughters
Heheh i only took face shot cause Sarah was wearing sleeveless shirt and Sofea only pampers.Both of them took the tudung and use it and was playing sekolah sekolah. Guess siapa Cikgu siapa Mak.
Sarah Mak yang hntar anak dia pergi Sekolah and cikgu dia Sofea.
Macam macam budak ni.
#MyWorld-Cookies Kicking
Sitting in front of my Laptop, feeling the live form inside me kicking me hard.
Hohoho si budak yang suka jaga malam ni.
Wonder what is like to be inside.
Wonder how would she/he look like.
Wonder when she/he will be ready to be delivered into the world.
Wonder how she/he 's perangai will be.
Wonder if she/he would love me back.
Its amazing kan, sometimes feel like an Alien..its amazing how a human body can endure so much pain and expand and let another human live inside.
To you ALLAH i humbly bow for your creation inside me. I am humbly thankful for you feeling me worthy to bear your creation, your ummah. Thank you for giving me this lifeform and let me feel the wonderful feelings of motherhood. Alhamdulillah, thank you ALLAH.
Hohoho si budak yang suka jaga malam ni.
Wonder what is like to be inside.
Wonder how would she/he look like.
Wonder when she/he will be ready to be delivered into the world.
Wonder how she/he 's perangai will be.
Wonder if she/he would love me back.
Its amazing kan, sometimes feel like an Alien..its amazing how a human body can endure so much pain and expand and let another human live inside.
To you ALLAH i humbly bow for your creation inside me. I am humbly thankful for you feeling me worthy to bear your creation, your ummah. Thank you for giving me this lifeform and let me feel the wonderful feelings of motherhood. Alhamdulillah, thank you ALLAH.
#MyFood-Binjai?
Eh how come so many people LIVING IN MALAYSIA, dunno about BINJAI. Ehem Binjai is a fruit, a malaysian fruit!!! . Not Binjai On The Park, or restoran Binjai. ITS A FRUIT LA. I was eating this fruit when my friend call to talk,she ask me what was i doing, I said eating Binjai.She ask me, where the restoran is located. Hello!!!...well i am not alarm. once i ask my friend if where she is was having the Binjai Season. She ask me is that some kind of fruit? how did it look?
Ahhaa..so here i give you the favourite fruit that i love to eat especially when i am pregnant.
Buah ni bau dia kuat.Sometimes orang ingat cam bau sampah tapi bau dia manis manis. Bukan macam Quieni. Family Mangga jugak. Rasa dia, ada dua jenis, satu Lemak Masam or Lemak Manis. Of course aku suka Lemak Masam cicah with cili+kicap or Garam.Buah ni kat Borneo banyak..so friend of SABAH & SARAWAK..i assume you know this fruit???...Do you?..Musim x sekarang ni?..This fruit is also known as Malaysian Mango.
Selalu Jun is musim buah ni. Aku ingat sebab first time aku pregnant, aku melepas musim Binjai. Dah tu ngidam x dapat. Ahahaha...today termakan terlebih Binjai..sampai 2 buah skali habis. Result-cam tengah darah tinggi now. Kalau time biasa makan okay je. Tapi sebab tgh pregnant ni, extra garam tu can kill. My fault..makan x ingat. Isi dia putih, smooth and silkt. Biji dia x lekat dengan isi so means kalau potong sampai biji tu maka bersih la biji tu.
Biodata si Binjai: Biodata Binjai
They say buah ni kalau lom masak leh jadi racun, tapi ntah la mestila yang dah petik tu dah masak kan. Ahh pokok binjai ni Tinggi gila. Hohoho...kalau nak amik buah galah xleh kot.Kena pakai crane..ahaha xdela kena panjat. Orang yang kenal Binjai je tahu spot pokok dia. Buah bermusim ni kalau sampai musim..nampak le pokok tu banyak buah coklat tergantung gantung.
Ahhaa..so here i give you the favourite fruit that i love to eat especially when i am pregnant.
Buah ni bau dia kuat.Sometimes orang ingat cam bau sampah tapi bau dia manis manis. Bukan macam Quieni. Family Mangga jugak. Rasa dia, ada dua jenis, satu Lemak Masam or Lemak Manis. Of course aku suka Lemak Masam cicah with cili+kicap or Garam.Buah ni kat Borneo banyak..so friend of SABAH & SARAWAK..i assume you know this fruit???...Do you?..Musim x sekarang ni?..This fruit is also known as Malaysian Mango.
Selalu Jun is musim buah ni. Aku ingat sebab first time aku pregnant, aku melepas musim Binjai. Dah tu ngidam x dapat. Ahahaha...today termakan terlebih Binjai..sampai 2 buah skali habis. Result-cam tengah darah tinggi now. Kalau time biasa makan okay je. Tapi sebab tgh pregnant ni, extra garam tu can kill. My fault..makan x ingat. Isi dia putih, smooth and silkt. Biji dia x lekat dengan isi so means kalau potong sampai biji tu maka bersih la biji tu.
Biodata si Binjai: Biodata Binjai
They say buah ni kalau lom masak leh jadi racun, tapi ntah la mestila yang dah petik tu dah masak kan. Ahh pokok binjai ni Tinggi gila. Hohoho...kalau nak amik buah galah xleh kot.Kena pakai crane..ahaha xdela kena panjat. Orang yang kenal Binjai je tahu spot pokok dia. Buah bermusim ni kalau sampai musim..nampak le pokok tu banyak buah coklat tergantung gantung.
#MyWorld- Too Many Broken Hearts.
Too many broken hearts. Recently i met friends with broken hearts to mend. Broken because they were left, broken because they were not taken seriously, broken cause they were second choices, broken cause they were misjudged.What ever it is, this broken hearts did not show how broken they are, until they were home safe and tuck in their bed.Loneliness is killing.
Seriusly sometimes i am speechles..x tahu nak kata apa.Takut cakap cam ni- Dengki, cakap macam tu-Suka dia patah hati,-Cakap cam ni-x serious. Of course i dun want to add on the pain at the same time i know they dont want me to pity them but to understand them and give them strength. I speak from what i know, what i see.Sometimes i think what i say may sound cruel, but i actually want them to see the clear picture, they shouldnt give up and stay broken, they have so much more good things coming their way. Seriously i feel them but i just dont know how to put it into words.
Most of my friend are girls. I have never met a broken men. I guess men are too ego to show how they feel and they always cover up by saying things that may sound hurtful to us girls to hear or maybe sounds "macam bagus la sangat" . Tapi dalam hati,hanya tuhan yang tahu. Men lagi pandai kabur pandangan dari kesedihan yang dorang alami. Standard la..lelaki was not made with much emotion and feelings tapi x bermakna dorang x rasa. Thats why they are always put in the position of the one yang cause trouble and tears to the girls.
To dear friends, Marriage is a long journey. Tada sapa nak kawin hari ini bercerai esok. Do not think if you marry a whealthy man you will be happy, or if you marry someone with good looks you be the luckiest girl alive, or marry someone who is romantic means it will last forever. Things can change in a blink of an eye after marriage. Cause that time, setan semua dah retire nak kasi korang feeling feeling jiwang tapi nak ranapkan je rumahtangga korang bina, and that time baru u learn to adapt to the person you so called Love. Its not a bad thing, its the sweetest thing tapi you have to work hard together. So choose well, insyaALLAH if jodoh however ALLAH will help you trough though how bad it is.There is no perfect match or perfect marriage without a few elements like, understanding, sacrifice, give and take, tolerating, and there is no perfect marriage without quarells and fights.But make sure lepas gaduh tu u make amend and berbaik semula.
Its better to regret and get hurt before marrying someone, knowing what he really is and make a good judgement that after. If things were not meant for you, let it go.If you force it, or try too hard pun x bagus cause later when he is happy with you, you will regret cause u had to do all the hard work. Some have been together for too long and suddenly break up just because of a silly thing. Sometimes it is faith showing you he is not the one for you. Think it the positive way. He made someone for everyone of us, he would not want us to be alone. Thats why he created Adam & Hawa to be together. But we have to work towards it. IF you tried and did not work out, jangan putus harapan. Things were not meant to be like you thought it would be.
I wish i could give the same thing what i have to my friends, thought it may not be the best thing for them but for me it is..cause no one is alike. It will come to you, when the time is right.Have faith in him and he will always lead you the right way.If he wanted you to be alone in this world..he would not have created friends for you. Dont be sad you lost someone, be happy you found him, you got the chance to love him and be thankful that even you lost him, you have made new friends besides him.
Seriusly sometimes i am speechles..x tahu nak kata apa.Takut cakap cam ni- Dengki, cakap macam tu-Suka dia patah hati,-Cakap cam ni-x serious. Of course i dun want to add on the pain at the same time i know they dont want me to pity them but to understand them and give them strength. I speak from what i know, what i see.Sometimes i think what i say may sound cruel, but i actually want them to see the clear picture, they shouldnt give up and stay broken, they have so much more good things coming their way. Seriously i feel them but i just dont know how to put it into words.
Most of my friend are girls. I have never met a broken men. I guess men are too ego to show how they feel and they always cover up by saying things that may sound hurtful to us girls to hear or maybe sounds "macam bagus la sangat" . Tapi dalam hati,hanya tuhan yang tahu. Men lagi pandai kabur pandangan dari kesedihan yang dorang alami. Standard la..lelaki was not made with much emotion and feelings tapi x bermakna dorang x rasa. Thats why they are always put in the position of the one yang cause trouble and tears to the girls.
To dear friends, Marriage is a long journey. Tada sapa nak kawin hari ini bercerai esok. Do not think if you marry a whealthy man you will be happy, or if you marry someone with good looks you be the luckiest girl alive, or marry someone who is romantic means it will last forever. Things can change in a blink of an eye after marriage. Cause that time, setan semua dah retire nak kasi korang feeling feeling jiwang tapi nak ranapkan je rumahtangga korang bina, and that time baru u learn to adapt to the person you so called Love. Its not a bad thing, its the sweetest thing tapi you have to work hard together. So choose well, insyaALLAH if jodoh however ALLAH will help you trough though how bad it is.There is no perfect match or perfect marriage without a few elements like, understanding, sacrifice, give and take, tolerating, and there is no perfect marriage without quarells and fights.But make sure lepas gaduh tu u make amend and berbaik semula.
Its better to regret and get hurt before marrying someone, knowing what he really is and make a good judgement that after. If things were not meant for you, let it go.If you force it, or try too hard pun x bagus cause later when he is happy with you, you will regret cause u had to do all the hard work. Some have been together for too long and suddenly break up just because of a silly thing. Sometimes it is faith showing you he is not the one for you. Think it the positive way. He made someone for everyone of us, he would not want us to be alone. Thats why he created Adam & Hawa to be together. But we have to work towards it. IF you tried and did not work out, jangan putus harapan. Things were not meant to be like you thought it would be.
I wish i could give the same thing what i have to my friends, thought it may not be the best thing for them but for me it is..cause no one is alike. It will come to you, when the time is right.Have faith in him and he will always lead you the right way.If he wanted you to be alone in this world..he would not have created friends for you. Dont be sad you lost someone, be happy you found him, you got the chance to love him and be thankful that even you lost him, you have made new friends besides him.
Thursday, June 14, 2012
#MyWorld-When I'm Back
Its the most wonderful feeling, it feels warm, feels like the sun shine each morning and cool breeze trough your hair. Yes ! I Am Home.
We drove back home after Shop hours. Yes ! My sister followed as she has started her long awaited leave. Before i could reach home, dah terbayang mom's food. Selfish nye mom kena masak pulak! No, understand my mom loves cooking, she just loves to cook. Since we are all away she seldom gets the chance to do her spread of food. So since we are coming home and she knows we love to eat. She whipped up a fresh baked Caramel, ayam halia and rendang, the grandma's style kacang panjang goreng ( its the style i grew up with where the kacang is fried with sauce untill lembik ). Hohoho and to add up. Fresh cuts of Binjai..( Not all like binjai but we grew up with it). Yummy only me and my sis would understand.
We reach all awake except for Sarah. After dinner, we as usual ate and laugh. The one missing is Azwan Abdullah-BIL. hoho nevermind mom pack a stack for you Bro. The next day, was cool as ever, i sat infront in the porch and hear the birds chirp while eating Nasi Goreng Cili Padi and hot cup of cofee. Breezy as ever. This is Home. My Husband went out to do his errand and stop by at OUR HOUSE. He called me from there and said how he missed having his time at HOME. This is HOME. Home is a place where we come back from a long day of work and where the load of work is lifted out and block from entering any zone in the house.Its' youre and only yours. Its fully relax. This is a place where i call Home. Ahhhhhh!~~~
Later evening Me and Hubby went to JJ. Just the 2 of us. Ooo sungguh rare dapat keluar macam ni. He ask me out nicely..alalal nak sweet sweet lak. Yes la since this is our month. Our anniversary coming up soon. Sofea and Sarah was too overwhelmed with Zura & Boy so we sneak out. We bought a few things, he bought durians which were on a discount but tasted awesome..then we had a slice of cake and coffee and Secret Recipe. Ahahah he ask me a bout my day. I felt funny, cause of course he knew how my day went, he was with me..but i played along..after talking and finishing out drinks we headed home where he drop me off, washed and headed for JB. So he said this time it felt like he was dating me and he had to go back to JB and leave me behind, but the best part he said, he knows that he is cming back to ME tomorrow and INSYALLAH the days after i will still be there with him. Where else during the courting period..he never know when will he return- tengok kalau papa dia kasi, if i x pergi mana mana. But now, he has to come back to me and is not an option for me not to be there..i laughed and said goodbye...see you tomorrow.
My sister also enjoyed her day with my brother though Wan was not here. At home you mood change and you feel more calm. Cause home is where people dont judge you, dont deny you, home is where the family is.
We drove back home after Shop hours. Yes ! My sister followed as she has started her long awaited leave. Before i could reach home, dah terbayang mom's food. Selfish nye mom kena masak pulak! No, understand my mom loves cooking, she just loves to cook. Since we are all away she seldom gets the chance to do her spread of food. So since we are coming home and she knows we love to eat. She whipped up a fresh baked Caramel, ayam halia and rendang, the grandma's style kacang panjang goreng ( its the style i grew up with where the kacang is fried with sauce untill lembik ). Hohoho and to add up. Fresh cuts of Binjai..( Not all like binjai but we grew up with it). Yummy only me and my sis would understand.
We reach all awake except for Sarah. After dinner, we as usual ate and laugh. The one missing is Azwan Abdullah-BIL. hoho nevermind mom pack a stack for you Bro. The next day, was cool as ever, i sat infront in the porch and hear the birds chirp while eating Nasi Goreng Cili Padi and hot cup of cofee. Breezy as ever. This is Home. My Husband went out to do his errand and stop by at OUR HOUSE. He called me from there and said how he missed having his time at HOME. This is HOME. Home is a place where we come back from a long day of work and where the load of work is lifted out and block from entering any zone in the house.Its' youre and only yours. Its fully relax. This is a place where i call Home. Ahhhhhh!~~~
Later evening Me and Hubby went to JJ. Just the 2 of us. Ooo sungguh rare dapat keluar macam ni. He ask me out nicely..alalal nak sweet sweet lak. Yes la since this is our month. Our anniversary coming up soon. Sofea and Sarah was too overwhelmed with Zura & Boy so we sneak out. We bought a few things, he bought durians which were on a discount but tasted awesome..then we had a slice of cake and coffee and Secret Recipe. Ahahah he ask me a bout my day. I felt funny, cause of course he knew how my day went, he was with me..but i played along..after talking and finishing out drinks we headed home where he drop me off, washed and headed for JB. So he said this time it felt like he was dating me and he had to go back to JB and leave me behind, but the best part he said, he knows that he is cming back to ME tomorrow and INSYALLAH the days after i will still be there with him. Where else during the courting period..he never know when will he return- tengok kalau papa dia kasi, if i x pergi mana mana. But now, he has to come back to me and is not an option for me not to be there..i laughed and said goodbye...see you tomorrow.
My sister also enjoyed her day with my brother though Wan was not here. At home you mood change and you feel more calm. Cause home is where people dont judge you, dont deny you, home is where the family is.
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
#MyKids-Loving each day..
Sarah & Sofea, dah lama tidak update pasal mereka ni. Hadoiai..mana tak, sebab mereka la blog tidak terupdate. Nak start mana pun tak tahu cause both of them are getting smarter and mischievous by the minute.
Sofea, what can i say, she is learning to talk, she immitates everything that you say. No 1 suka sakat orang. Yess she is the kecik kecik cili padi, dah berapa kali dia smackdown Sarah sampai nangis, x kira lagi tarik rambut for nothing, cubit pipi Sarah and latest dia start to grip Sarah kuat kuat. Tapi she loves her sister. malam tido peluk.pagi bangun mesti cari Yaya.
Muka x bersalah la ni sedangkan baru je lepas hempas my mouse to the laptop. Papa dia marah je dia makan Saman. IF mami dia marah, dia nangis kejap je then dia start balik buat apa dia buat sebelum tu. Her favourite words/ayat: Bas, Lori, Betul betul (macam upin ipin), Papa see this, Habis,Nyamuk,
This is miss angelic-talk-a-lot. She is growing, kesian nowdays slalu kena marah sbb stubborn. Suka melawan. I guess it is growing up process, must ask why, how and etc. Sometimes bila tgh pening or penat can be very very frustrating. She is ready for school. She can go to toilet on her own.quite indipendent and very helpful. Sayang her so much though nowdays i always make her cry. REASON: She likes to go againts me, melawan sangat sangat. But she is still the lovable-loving-warm-hearted kid.
They fight with each other, they play with each other. If i scold Sarah, sofea comes running to hug her and scolding me baby language. And if i scold Sofea , Sarah will go " eh x baik marah budak kecik macam tu, Sofea kecik lagi dia x tahu". Once my best friend said " Sofea ni macam raksaksa la, habis semua dia pijak". She told my friend, "Eh why you cakap Sofea macam tu, dia adik bradik i tau. Why u cakap bradik i macam tu?" and Sofea next to her as usual..angguk angguk je.
My 2 daughters...loving them so much.
#MyWorld- BabySit Me.
Today one of the macik customer ask me, Why x pergi kerja je?.
I told her i am, as a mother.
She said, Sayang i am still young, lot of Jobs outside. Anak anak ni boleh hantar baby sitter or taska.
I smiled...
Macik ni nak promote dia leh jaga budak ke? Dia ada Taska? Dia nak bagi aku kerja? Apa motif berbual macam ni...?*terdetik dalam hati la.
Macik macik, here let me tell you why I am sometimes reluctant to sent my kids away from me.
My kids are my life, my love and my pride and joy. My mom can't look after them,my in laws are far away so that's it i am not sending them away.If they could, i would be happy to go and work and help my husband out with the bills. Happy to do so..but simple, they can't and i dont expect them to drop everything for my kids.Why i want my mom or any close family to look after them, cause i dont trust the people at the taska, or some random baby sitter , or maybe the neighbor i knew for so long to take care of my kids. I know my kids, they are a handful and biarla i je yang jaga. Here macik why...
You read in the papers, sometimes happen to people close to you, in the society where you live in-Cabul budak, dera budak di taska, budak mati tercekik susu, kena culik. I know this can also happen if i am the one looking after BUT saya ibunya..saya akan cuba sebaik mungkin to protect them. I would lay my life down. Would this other strangers do for them?? NO!!..Takpela..i look after them, when i am old in hope they will look after me.
Even some cases, people close to you, like your relatives or family member do such a thing to this kids, apa ntah lagi nak trust outsiders. Xpela selagi saya mampu, selagi suami saya mampu. Macik, do you know how heartbreaking some moms go trough to sent their kids to others. But some have to...and they trusted those people who in return disgrace them, harm their kids and some even did it cause:- malas nak jaga budak tu x nak berhenti nangis.SEDANGKAN, they are paid for. Xpe macik, biar x cukup sekarang InsyaALLAH nanti ALLAH balas x berbelah bagi.
My Husband saw me looking down. He knows yang I felt offended with the maciks blabbering of how good if women now days work...so he came and smile. With the sweetest answer he said, 'Xpela macik, saya masih mampu bagi dorang cukup semua. Saya nak isteri saya dengan saya dan anak anak...kalau pergi kerja tuk bantu suami takpela macik, tapi kalau tuk beli apa dia nak, saya masih boleh bagi..?"...Macik tu laugh a silly laugh.."xdela macik cakap je, macik pun dulu x kerja jugak,pacik x bagi?'.Her face turn a shy look.Eh sorry macik bukan nak offend you pulak.
Eh then apa la macik ni, mungkin dia hanya melepaskan kekesalan dia tidak dapat bekerja dulu. Tapi macik, saya yang pilih jalan ni. Tapi macik, you x nampak like someone who was mistreated, who was neglected by your kids and husband.
To mothers who work, i support you, pillars to their husbands, guardian to their kids.Those who can cope are just as superwoman of these days..juggling between work and family, 2 different stress and job.Strongest of the bunch they are.
..today I read in the papers, a kid was molested and raped by the husband of her baby sitter. How the mom of the kid was in rage & heartbroken. Yet, she stood by her kid and she will gain back the kids trust, the kids courage, the kids self esteem. The mother will work all her best to make things right and be there for the kid even though she is broken inside.Tertanya saya, orang yang buat tu xde anak perempuan ker? Tak ada akal ker? budak tu kecik lagi, why rosakkan masa depan dia. Things like this make me think twice.
To mothers who are looking after their kids, its a sacrifice without regrets,its a highest paid job. Nourished the kids and love them, the reward and benefits is for a lifetime.Though it can be the most tiring job and i am not complaining but a simple show of love or gratitude from the child or spouse will kill the tiredness away and you can carry on. Stress that dont give you a heart condition, and exercise that can keep you fit.
But i know, not all mothers are the same, some are just the opposite.Everything happen for a reason and i believe they are not bad mothers but just misguided in a certain way.
I told her i am, as a mother.
She said, Sayang i am still young, lot of Jobs outside. Anak anak ni boleh hantar baby sitter or taska.
I smiled...
Macik ni nak promote dia leh jaga budak ke? Dia ada Taska? Dia nak bagi aku kerja? Apa motif berbual macam ni...?*terdetik dalam hati la.
Macik macik, here let me tell you why I am sometimes reluctant to sent my kids away from me.
My kids are my life, my love and my pride and joy. My mom can't look after them,my in laws are far away so that's it i am not sending them away.If they could, i would be happy to go and work and help my husband out with the bills. Happy to do so..but simple, they can't and i dont expect them to drop everything for my kids.Why i want my mom or any close family to look after them, cause i dont trust the people at the taska, or some random baby sitter , or maybe the neighbor i knew for so long to take care of my kids. I know my kids, they are a handful and biarla i je yang jaga. Here macik why...
You read in the papers, sometimes happen to people close to you, in the society where you live in-Cabul budak, dera budak di taska, budak mati tercekik susu, kena culik. I know this can also happen if i am the one looking after BUT saya ibunya..saya akan cuba sebaik mungkin to protect them. I would lay my life down. Would this other strangers do for them?? NO!!..Takpela..i look after them, when i am old in hope they will look after me.
Even some cases, people close to you, like your relatives or family member do such a thing to this kids, apa ntah lagi nak trust outsiders. Xpela selagi saya mampu, selagi suami saya mampu. Macik, do you know how heartbreaking some moms go trough to sent their kids to others. But some have to...and they trusted those people who in return disgrace them, harm their kids and some even did it cause:- malas nak jaga budak tu x nak berhenti nangis.SEDANGKAN, they are paid for. Xpe macik, biar x cukup sekarang InsyaALLAH nanti ALLAH balas x berbelah bagi.
My Husband saw me looking down. He knows yang I felt offended with the maciks blabbering of how good if women now days work...so he came and smile. With the sweetest answer he said, 'Xpela macik, saya masih mampu bagi dorang cukup semua. Saya nak isteri saya dengan saya dan anak anak...kalau pergi kerja tuk bantu suami takpela macik, tapi kalau tuk beli apa dia nak, saya masih boleh bagi..?"...Macik tu laugh a silly laugh.."xdela macik cakap je, macik pun dulu x kerja jugak,pacik x bagi?'.Her face turn a shy look.Eh sorry macik bukan nak offend you pulak.
Eh then apa la macik ni, mungkin dia hanya melepaskan kekesalan dia tidak dapat bekerja dulu. Tapi macik, saya yang pilih jalan ni. Tapi macik, you x nampak like someone who was mistreated, who was neglected by your kids and husband.
To mothers who work, i support you, pillars to their husbands, guardian to their kids.Those who can cope are just as superwoman of these days..juggling between work and family, 2 different stress and job.Strongest of the bunch they are.
..today I read in the papers, a kid was molested and raped by the husband of her baby sitter. How the mom of the kid was in rage & heartbroken. Yet, she stood by her kid and she will gain back the kids trust, the kids courage, the kids self esteem. The mother will work all her best to make things right and be there for the kid even though she is broken inside.Tertanya saya, orang yang buat tu xde anak perempuan ker? Tak ada akal ker? budak tu kecik lagi, why rosakkan masa depan dia. Things like this make me think twice.
To mothers who are looking after their kids, its a sacrifice without regrets,its a highest paid job. Nourished the kids and love them, the reward and benefits is for a lifetime.Though it can be the most tiring job and i am not complaining but a simple show of love or gratitude from the child or spouse will kill the tiredness away and you can carry on. Stress that dont give you a heart condition, and exercise that can keep you fit.
But i know, not all mothers are the same, some are just the opposite.Everything happen for a reason and i believe they are not bad mothers but just misguided in a certain way.
Sunday, June 10, 2012
#MyWorld- The Euro spirit in Me.
Some who read my previous article ask me what got me tick off sampai mcam marah sangat.Did it sound so angry??? It's just something i read and started me to think. Sometime knowledge can be powerful sometime it can destroy people. Something thinking is a way of Syaitan to confused you. What ever it is, we are human and we make errors and we made mistakes and we feel for each other.
Me and my other half are okay, he is very patience as a small thing can tick me off and i am very grateful for him though sometimes he is lost in understanding why i get angry. Sorry!! The article was written based on some stories shared with me and that is what i think of it...sorry if some comments was not approved. as it was directed personally.
Anyway..the Euro season is here, just as bad as the World Cup season. Status updates about players, about teams, matches.Ffor those yang not into Football, mesti dorang sangat bosan dengan semua ni. Now days semangat football ni not only in boys, men but in WOMEN as well and not because they like to see men in shorts running up and down the field...cause they KNOW THE GAME. Some even better than Men..you don't believe me? Yes there is.
My hubby and me, he is not into the match sangat sangat. He can watch for the 1st half and sleep trough the second. He wont sit by glued to the TV but he will watch with me. Whether its world cup or Euro..his favourite Team is only one. GERMANY....he even had a GERMANY Jersey and only this team he 'kuasa' nak layan the match. Well Germany is one of the strongest team and always a treat to its Rival, they can play any team out if they want to. Huhuhu..
Me, as always i root for the Hollanders. Not because i have some part in me but because they dare to wear bright Orange Jerseys..ahahaha.. Well i have a few teams i support. In order will be- Holland, Portugal, Germany and Argentina. When i first use to watch footie, I liked Brazil, basically anyone who learns to watch football learn about Brazil and the samba players first before any other team. The main Teams that was highlighted at those times were Brazil, Argentina,Holland and Italy. But France won the cup..yes it was that year. Now trough games i learn to love the game well. Annoyingly i dun like watching Asia football unless its MALAYSIA againts another country ( Malaysian Cup x minat) and i dont like English Clubs either cause now i think there is too much publicity and popularity of the players than the match and the game itself.
Yesterday i watch Group B matches with me matey ZM, in HD as she says it. Only both of us laughing and screaming. Mad kan? lucky it was night and i had detach my speakers. The first match between Hollanders and Denmark i missed as was putting the kids to bed. Watched Germany vs Portugal, like my husband said, it was like him versus me.ahahaha..We watch only till 60 minutes play off and we hit the beds. The game was slow and boring. Well today hoping to watch the Spaniards play agants Italy...i am for the Bull Fighters.
Me and my other half are okay, he is very patience as a small thing can tick me off and i am very grateful for him though sometimes he is lost in understanding why i get angry. Sorry!! The article was written based on some stories shared with me and that is what i think of it...sorry if some comments was not approved. as it was directed personally.
Anyway..the Euro season is here, just as bad as the World Cup season. Status updates about players, about teams, matches.Ffor those yang not into Football, mesti dorang sangat bosan dengan semua ni. Now days semangat football ni not only in boys, men but in WOMEN as well and not because they like to see men in shorts running up and down the field...cause they KNOW THE GAME. Some even better than Men..you don't believe me? Yes there is.
Me, as always i root for the Hollanders. Not because i have some part in me but because they dare to wear bright Orange Jerseys..ahahaha.. Well i have a few teams i support. In order will be- Holland, Portugal, Germany and Argentina. When i first use to watch footie, I liked Brazil, basically anyone who learns to watch football learn about Brazil and the samba players first before any other team. The main Teams that was highlighted at those times were Brazil, Argentina,Holland and Italy. But France won the cup..yes it was that year. Now trough games i learn to love the game well. Annoyingly i dun like watching Asia football unless its MALAYSIA againts another country ( Malaysian Cup x minat) and i dont like English Clubs either cause now i think there is too much publicity and popularity of the players than the match and the game itself.
Yesterday i watch Group B matches with me matey ZM, in HD as she says it. Only both of us laughing and screaming. Mad kan? lucky it was night and i had detach my speakers. The first match between Hollanders and Denmark i missed as was putting the kids to bed. Watched Germany vs Portugal, like my husband said, it was like him versus me.ahahaha..We watch only till 60 minutes play off and we hit the beds. The game was slow and boring. Well today hoping to watch the Spaniards play agants Italy...i am for the Bull Fighters.
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
#MyMind- Men & Women.
This is only my piece of mind from what i see and go trough in everyday life. Saya tahu saya pun masih lagi menuntut ilmu and still in the learning process jadi anyone is welcome to betulkan di mana saya silap.
Sometimes bila kita dengar ceramah about Nabi dan sunnah sunnah Nabi dalam hidup berumah tangga, some men will go " ah tengok tu isteri nabi, how dia melayan nabi." we are deemed to ikut cara wife nabi melayan Rasul Allah yang Maksum itu. Isteri mana yang tak nak and try her hardest to follow. Understand that dalam dunia kini women also faces alot of challenges that sometimes pull her attention away from her duties.Working Wifes for example.
MasyaALLAH if get a husband closes like sifat sifat nabi syukur alhamdulillah. But men today often terlepas pandang yang mereka itu,(bukan semua la sesetengah) hampir kepada keperibadian nabi tu tak ada. Nabi Maksum, yakni terperlihara dari melakukan dosa dosa kecil. So if a wife who gets husband macam ni and tidak melayan sebaik mungkin, mesti she will feel so small and belittle and also bersalah. Remember isteri isteri nabi are normal as any women today, tidak lepas dari lakukan kesilapan, tidak lepas dari sifat sifat marah, penat and also needs attention.Our beloved Prophet had many wifes and all of them loved him cause he was fair.
How does Nabi Muhammad attends to this? He face it patiently and slowly not by screaming and yelling to his wifes and calling names.Not by ignoring his wifes needs and kekurang wife dia. If you do so and you expect your wife to be quiet and listen and not even cry,means you are looking for a wife who is not human. Cause ALLAH made woman with the most feeling, tears and also fear, for men to protect.
Ni tidak, when the wife does the slightest mistake or maybe merajuk because of something he has done, he uses it as a reason to marry another and claims that it is in his right. How can that be what you have not fufil to 1 wife needs.
Your wife needs your support even though she is not working, at home with the kids with no one to talk to and when you come back you expect her to serve u good food, dont talk to much, no complains and let you watch tv and sleep so that the next morning you can go to work.Orang gajikah? fair? Your wife needs your attention and sometimes clingy. You rasa rimas.Somehow after years of marriage,you thinks its not relevant to woo her or give her your attention but you can go out and give other women your attention and shoulder to cry.Fair? And when she gets hurt by something you said, or maybe she is anoyed by some misunderstanding you had, instead of clearing it out you walk away and when she sits quiet and have a silent treatment because you refuse to talk to her about the issue you claim that you should fine another wife? adil sangat kah?
Your wife is human, she is bond to make mistakes,tegurla baik baik. Sometimes she protest not because you tegur her but by the way you tegur her sometimes humiliate her and rough. No woman in their mind will give up everything for a man she doesnt love, she doesnt admire, she doesnt think worth of her. So please, in future when your wife does something wrong,instead of jatuh hukum dia" x bau syurga", reflect on what you have done to her for her to go to that extend, and if not in your fault, show her the way back. Maybe she just got lost in rage. You claim to have love this person to marry her, so xkan la you nak leave her behind when you walk into Jannah.She is made dari tulang rusuk kiri lelaki. Close to your heart far from any sepak terajang and yelling.
A lot of men Kejar bidadari syurga, but if you ask me or some woman around, they would rather have their husband than someone they have not met or know no matter how perfect that being can be cause i know i am not perfect and only my husband knows the imperfection and flaws that i have.Many families the men practise good islamic teaching in the family but always neglect the rights of his wife upon him.
Arcticle: For the Husbands,
I know you might think I am a feminist. But this is what some women like me go trough.They feel its their fault to be treated this way, is the right way for husbands to treat them like that and is always them to be blame. They take the blame without knowing, what is their right.
Sometimes bila kita dengar ceramah about Nabi dan sunnah sunnah Nabi dalam hidup berumah tangga, some men will go " ah tengok tu isteri nabi, how dia melayan nabi." we are deemed to ikut cara wife nabi melayan Rasul Allah yang Maksum itu. Isteri mana yang tak nak and try her hardest to follow. Understand that dalam dunia kini women also faces alot of challenges that sometimes pull her attention away from her duties.Working Wifes for example.
MasyaALLAH if get a husband closes like sifat sifat nabi syukur alhamdulillah. But men today often terlepas pandang yang mereka itu,(bukan semua la sesetengah) hampir kepada keperibadian nabi tu tak ada. Nabi Maksum, yakni terperlihara dari melakukan dosa dosa kecil. So if a wife who gets husband macam ni and tidak melayan sebaik mungkin, mesti she will feel so small and belittle and also bersalah. Remember isteri isteri nabi are normal as any women today, tidak lepas dari lakukan kesilapan, tidak lepas dari sifat sifat marah, penat and also needs attention.Our beloved Prophet had many wifes and all of them loved him cause he was fair.
How does Nabi Muhammad attends to this? He face it patiently and slowly not by screaming and yelling to his wifes and calling names.Not by ignoring his wifes needs and kekurang wife dia. If you do so and you expect your wife to be quiet and listen and not even cry,means you are looking for a wife who is not human. Cause ALLAH made woman with the most feeling, tears and also fear, for men to protect.
How does one man justify yang diri dia should get a wife like yang closest to isteri isteri Nabi if he himself doesnt follow the teaching. Thats why husband and wife both need to work hand in hand and seek knowledge together. If the husband is good of course automatically the wife follows. It is in our nature when we find the other half, we follow. Sedangkan Menteri Wanita apa pun she looks back for her husband. Cause to her, he is her leader. Apala senang macam ni pun x nampak.dari Abu Hurairah r.a ia berkata: Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: “pergaulilah kaum wanita itudengan pergaulan yang lemah lembut, kerana sesungguhnya kaum wanita itu dijadikan dari tulang rusuk dan sesungguhnya tulang rusuk itulah yang sebengkok-benkoknya ialah yangpaling atas. Maka apabila engkau hendak meluruskannya, luruskannlah dengan perlahan dan apabila tidak diluruskan, ia sentiasa bengkok selama-lamanya. Oleh sebab itupergaulilah wanita dengan pergaulan yang lemah lembut”. (H.R Bukhari dan Muslim)
Ni tidak, when the wife does the slightest mistake or maybe merajuk because of something he has done, he uses it as a reason to marry another and claims that it is in his right. How can that be what you have not fufil to 1 wife needs.
Firman Allah:
Ertinya: ...”dan bergaullah dengan mereka secara patut (makruf), kemudian bila kamu tidak menyukai mereka (maka bersabarlah) kerana mungkin kamu tidak menyukai sesuatu padahal Allah menjadikan padanya kebaikan yang banyak”
Your wife needs your support even though she is not working, at home with the kids with no one to talk to and when you come back you expect her to serve u good food, dont talk to much, no complains and let you watch tv and sleep so that the next morning you can go to work.Orang gajikah? fair? Your wife needs your attention and sometimes clingy. You rasa rimas.Somehow after years of marriage,you thinks its not relevant to woo her or give her your attention but you can go out and give other women your attention and shoulder to cry.Fair? And when she gets hurt by something you said, or maybe she is anoyed by some misunderstanding you had, instead of clearing it out you walk away and when she sits quiet and have a silent treatment because you refuse to talk to her about the issue you claim that you should fine another wife? adil sangat kah?
Your wife is human, she is bond to make mistakes,tegurla baik baik. Sometimes she protest not because you tegur her but by the way you tegur her sometimes humiliate her and rough. No woman in their mind will give up everything for a man she doesnt love, she doesnt admire, she doesnt think worth of her. So please, in future when your wife does something wrong,instead of jatuh hukum dia" x bau syurga", reflect on what you have done to her for her to go to that extend, and if not in your fault, show her the way back. Maybe she just got lost in rage. You claim to have love this person to marry her, so xkan la you nak leave her behind when you walk into Jannah.She is made dari tulang rusuk kiri lelaki. Close to your heart far from any sepak terajang and yelling.
A lot of men Kejar bidadari syurga, but if you ask me or some woman around, they would rather have their husband than someone they have not met or know no matter how perfect that being can be cause i know i am not perfect and only my husband knows the imperfection and flaws that i have.Many families the men practise good islamic teaching in the family but always neglect the rights of his wife upon him.
Arcticle: For the Husbands,
I know you might think I am a feminist. But this is what some women like me go trough.They feel its their fault to be treated this way, is the right way for husbands to treat them like that and is always them to be blame. They take the blame without knowing, what is their right.
...Dreaming dreams away..
This is dedicated to a fren of a friend..understands that dreams are just dreams unless those when u ask in favour of god to show u some signs...if not..dreams are just an evil way to make ur mind go cuckoo.
So stop living the dream and get back to reality cause some pples time is wasted just because you decided to believe in your dreams.
Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree?
I travel the world
And the seven seas
Everybody's looking for something.
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree?
I travel the world
And the seven seas
Everybody's looking for something.
Hold your head up - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up.
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
Hold your head up - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up - Movin' on
Hold your head up - Movin' on - Keep your head up.
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